The Nonconformance Coach


Conformance is the norm.

But that’s not you.

It's time... release the need to follow prescribed paths. open up to your unique path of nonconformance. stop caring so much about what other people think you should do, be, have, or create.

…to give yourself permission to stop doing all those things you do that keep you out of alignment with your Soul, and step into the transformative Truth, which is this:

Your natural state is alignment, flow, passion, and fulfillment. They are always there, flowing, ready for you to step back in, or let go of the things you’re holding on to that block that stream.

Stan's Bio

Stan Maszczak (pronounced MAY-zack) is a professional speaker, writer, diversity educator, and transpersonal coach, helping people of all genders ditch conformity so they can thrive in personal & professional relationships, career, creativity, and spirituality. He's a U.S. Army combat veteran who identifies as genderqueer and gay, and has an affinity for high heels, the oxford comma, non-binary fashion, and inflicting cognitive dissonance on everyone who could use some.

A two-tour Iraq combat veteran with the U.S. Army Reserve and military member for 18+ years, Stan served both during “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” and after its repeal. During his military career he’s worked as military police, a broadcast journalist, a Public Affairs Chief, and an Equal Opportunity Advisor. Over the last 20 years, he has served in both civilian and military leadership roles for teams and organizations ranging from 5 to 2,000 people. Stan is an Energy Leadership Index™ Master Practitioner (ELI-MP) with the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), holds Department of Defense certifications in equal opportunity practice, training, small group facilitation, and mediation, and earned a Bachelor of Arts in American Studies from Pace University in New York City. He is a professional metaphysical practitioner through the International Metaphysical Ministry (I.M.M.), earned his Bachelor of Metaphysical Science (B.Msc.) from the University of Metaphysics, and is a certified Soul Realignment® Practitioner.

Stan’s passions for equality, social justice, and facilitating empowerment in creative self-expression stem from his life experiences. He grew up and served in leadership in fundamentalist Christian communities, unwelcoming toward LGBTQIA+ people. After many years of attempting to change his sexual orientation through individual and group programs, Stan finally spent more than a year studying, praying, and researching Greek and Hebrew Biblical texts to reconcile his faith and sexuality at age 25. Reinvigorated by his newfound freedom and passion for faith and life, he moved to Los Angeles and volunteered with LGBTQIA+ faith communities, focused on facilitating similar reconciliation and reconnection between ostracized LGBTQ people and their faith. He’s since lived in New York City, Virginia, and Washington, DC.

Stan loves speaking and working with creatives, professionals, teams, and nonconformers of all kinds as they gain deeper connection with their passions and purpose, finding new ways to ditch conformity to experience fulfillment in life, leadership, creativity, and spirituality.

You can find Stan at and on Facebook.


Stan keynoting an LGBTQ Pride Month Special Emphasis Program at the FBI’s Criminal Justice Information Services (CJIS) Division.

Stan keynoting an LGBTQ Pride Month Special Emphasis Program at the FBI’s Criminal Justice Information Services (CJIS) Division.

Why Stan?

Because our lives on this planet are too short to spend them hiding our truest Selves, pushing away the creativity and passions that tug at our hearts, minds, and souls on the daily.

Because the life you want is possible—in ways you can’t even imagine right now.

Because the world desperately needs us—our truest Selves—in order for it to be as beautiful, life-giving, and whole as it can.

Because there’s a reason you have the passions, gifts, talents, and persistent callings that you do.

Because you don’t have to give in to the pressure to conform—this is actually an option we all have—you can opt out of conformance in any moment of any day.

Because you are art—you are beautiful—and you are worthy of expression, love, and authenticity, in every area of your life—creatively, spiritually, mentally, physically.

What One-On-One Clients Are Saying

When I started coaching with Stan I was unmotivated by a project that seemed to have no purpose or direction. Professional standards dictated I finish it, while I felt no desire to do so or connection to the work. Stan helped me reconnect to the values that drive my work, something I had been ignoring, and I was able to make a decision not only to continue the project but to revise it in ways that reflected who I am and why I do this work. Stan’s values-based, outcome-driven approach, blended with (very) subtle humor and incisive perception, not only unblocked my writing but also reminded me of my purpose. Priceless.
— Angeletta | Louisiana, U.S.A.
My transformation has been above and beyond positive. Taking the ELI assessment gave me a lot of clarity on how my thought processes kept leading me to look at situations negatively. Self-judgment for my creative and work life has lessened and I know, through performance and validation by customers and management, I do a great job. This has come in the form of great work reviews (which leads to a bigger bonus) and return customers for voice over and music work. I have cut back on taking everything as an indictment of my performance and turned it into taking feedback as direction—my biggest breakthrough so far. I’ve learned that there isn’t just one choice for anything, and it’s opened possibilities at work and home. The true transformation has been in keeping an open mind to possibilities instead of seeing everything as being concrete.
— John | Virginia, U.S.A.
Having someone help ask the tough questions and guide you when needed is very helpful. I know I have been growing with each session and I definitely learn something each week. I have grown my own self-worth and confidence. I am less fearful of staying stagnant and stuck which is how I’ve felt for the past few years.
— Client | California, U.S.A.

What Audiences Are Saying

I would say that after the initial shock, (seeing a man in red hot Stilettos) you will find the most intelligent, knowledgeable and most respectful individual you could ever know. He will be engaging, direct, uplifting and you will leave with a feeling of love and acceptance no matter what your gender, race, or sexuality after hearing him speak.
— Gender & Diversity Keynote
I would highly encourage any agency to have you speak. You are very engaging and get everyone on the same page right away with the terminology. We would love to have you back!
— Gender & Diversity Keynote
A very engaging speaker—highly recommended.
You don’t often find instructors with that kind of energy and speaking style—he’s got a gift.
— Workshop Participant
I love how he just does his own thing—and it works.
— Workshop Participant

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